Have you ever asked yourself why one of your friends seems to take everything negatively? Have you ever wondered why someone you know acts differently from everyone else? Why do some people do bad things, or simply behave in ways we don't understand? Have you ever stopped to think that there might be a reason behind the attitudes they have?
For most of us, when someone acts differently, our first instinct is to stay away. Admit it—only a few people, maybe one out of a hundred friends, or sometimes none at all, will break the silence and try to understand. Very few people have the courage to look beyond the "monster" someone seems to be. They may be afraid of what they'll find, or afraid of awakening emotions they don't know how to handle.
People often say that true friends are rare, and perhaps they're right. You're lucky if you have someone who will take long rides just to see you, knock on your door in the middle of the night without even knowing if you'll answer, listen patiently to your endless dramas, scold you like a mother, and then hug you without judgment. Every friendship is tested at some point. The real question is this: if you are truly a friend, will you allow those challenges to break your friendship? Not even distance—or continental boundaries—should be enough to do that.
I once heard someone say, "She only remembers me when she needs something or someone to lean on." Instead of complaining, maybe you should feel honored. Why? Because you are that person's safe place. It simply means you have a significant influence in their life. Sometimes, people don't come to you because they need solutions. They come because they need someone who will listen.
Human beings are naturally intelligent. We are born with the ability to face hardships in life. Deep inside, we often know what we should do. The problem is that our emotions sometimes cloud our judgment.
Emotions are powerful. According to psychological theories, emotions are states of feeling that produce physical and psychological changes, influencing the way we behave. They play a vital role in our lives. Since our emotions influence our behavior, we often act based on what we feel.
This brings us back to the questions at the beginning. The way people behave often reflects the emotions they carry. From the moment we are in the womb until adulthood, the people around us greatly influence our emotional development. These experiences shape the attitudes we have today.
Remember, we are born with the capacity to choose between right and wrong. We are not born good or bad. We become who we are through the environment we grow up in and the people who surround us. If we grow up receiving love, we usually have plenty of love to give. But if we grow up without it, we spend our lives searching for it. Sadly, some people end up looking for love in the wrong places.
So why do people feel this way?
One of our greatest emotional needs is to feel important—to feel valued, loved, and worthy. Imagine trying to face life's challenges while constantly believing that you are unimportant, unworthy, or unloved. When someone carries those feelings long enough, even a small problem can feel unbearable. For some, that overwhelming pain leads to thoughts of suicide.
To some people, suicide seems like the only solution to endless suffering. But it isn't a solution. It is an escape—an attempt to run away from a reality that feels too painful to bear.
I have thought about suicide before. But then I remembered the places I still wanted to visit, the dreams I had yet to fulfill, and the joy of raising my children, who have become one of life's greatest blessings. I prayed and asked God to take away my worries and give me the strength to remain calm and strong in the face of every challenge.
Even today, I still face many problems—more than I can count—but I face them with a much calmer heart than before.
If you're reading this, I hope you take a moment to reflect. Be kinder. Try to understand before you judge. Everyone is fighting a battle you may know nothing about.
And if you have questions, or if you simply need someone to listen, feel free to leave a comment or send me an email. I'd be more than happy to hear from you.
Take care, and always choose kindness.❤️❤️❤️❤️
